Have you ever wondered about mom guilt? What is it about becoming a mother that seems to leave you feeling like you’re never quite doing enough? Or is it just me? A while ago I shared some unconventional advice I received from my doctor. In efforts to encourage me to bump my self-care to a higher priority on my to-do list, he says “Sorry, but you’re going to have to be a little bit selfish.” That advice has stuck with me. Although I’m still trying to figure out how not to put myself last, I have made some recent progress in being a little bit selfish. And I don’t feel guilty about it!
Last week I decided to skip the kid’s bathtime so I could soak in a bubble bath for myself instead. They can always take a bath in the morning. I took an evening to go to the mall alone, while my husband tackled dinner and bedtime. And I bought myself a new outfit, even though I know both kids need new winter coats. In my defense, the new outfit was for my anniversary. We just celebrated 9 years of marriage, so I’m completely justified. And the kids will still get their coats.
For once, I did not feel terrible for shirking my mommy responsibilities to do something for me. I’m sure the mom guilt will never go away. It’s part of the territory. But I’m slowly learning it’s ok to be selfish every once in a while. And I’m happier for it.
Have a great day,
Reasa
